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Therapy can be hugely helpful for many people in a wide variety of ways.
It can help people to cope and overcome many difficult issues and situations, such as; depression, anxiety, bereavement, relationship breakdown, early childhood difficulties and current mental health issues. Therapy offers a safe, confidential place for people to talk and make sense of life issues and problems that may be upsetting and confusing them, or they may be painful and uncomfortable.
You may have been recommended to attend therapy, following a visit to your GP. Or perhaps your partner, colleague or a friend has suggested that it might be helpful. Or you’ve decided for yourself, that enough is enough and you need to do something about the way you are feeling or thinking.
Very often one of the reasons that people put off coming to therapy, is because they feel they should be able to resolve their own problems, or they feel uncomfortable about the idea of talking to someone else. They may feel that seeking help is a sign of weakness, but in truth, it’s a sign of strength.
Following the initial phone call, I start the process by inviting you in for an informal assessment meeting. This usually lasts for about an hour and a half and in this time, we go through your family history, what you enjoy doing, who supports you, what the current issues are. We would then talk about where we might start and how we would work together. You would then then leave with an idea of how I can help and if I was the right therapist for you.
If you come to me for therapy, I will work in many different ways – there is not a ‘one size fits all’.
One week we may just talk, another week we may look at doing some fun psycho educational work or we may look at the issues creatively or perhaps you need some relaxation techniques. I am a great believer that there is space for humour in the therapy room when appropriate. But overall I will offer you time where you will be listened to in a respectful, empathic way, with acceptance and understanding so you can begin to view your issues from a different perspective.
The area where I work from is quiet and calm and has been designed to create a safe and confidential space, where you can speak openly without fear or judgement. Often this experience is rare in our daily lives, to have a quiet space without interruption, just a time for you to think and make sense of what is going on in your life.
After as few as six sessions, often people report that they feel they have gained a greater insight and understanding about themselves, and have learnt how past experiences may have caused current issues. Through this learning we aim for you to be better equipped to make better choices and positive life changes going forward in your future.
Sometimes relationships hit a rocky patch, that’s only normal. So it doesn’t matter if you’re living together, married, single, gay or straight – couples counselling can help no matter how trivial the issue seems.
It’s a safe place for you to come to work out your differences. Maybe there is an issue that keeps coming up – perhaps it’s that one thing that you always fall out over. Or maybe you’ve decided to call it time but are struggling to sort out the details of money, childcare etc. without fighting. I provide a caring and supportive environment to help you find a way through any difficulties you may be facing.
We will initially have a discussion, usually over the phone, to briefly discuss what the issues are. We will then set up a time for you to come in for an assessment and I will ask some questions about you and your partner, your relationship and what you hope to get out of counselling. You might decide to come to counselling with your partner or alone… or you might have a combination of solo and couple sessions.
I am an experienced Couples Counsellor and you can feel reassured that I am always completely confidential and non-judgemental.
It really depends on what you want to get out of it, but it’s rare that you will leave without feeling a positive change.
For some people, I help them to transform their relationships and their lives; for others I help them solve a specific problem and move forward with more confidence.
Each session is an hour long, and we spend time talking about what’s going on and how you feel. Often we ask the questions that don’t feel OK to discuss on your own at home. I may offer you advice and suggestions for things to try at home or give some suggestions of books to read. If you don’t like to talk a lot, then we might try different ways for mapping out your thoughts. It all depends on what’s right for you.
Even if things don’t change, counselling may help you to see things in a different way or make the decision that’s right for you to move forward. Just talking to someone who isn’t involved in the relationship and is impartial can help you.
Often People are genuinely surprised when we start working together. They may come in feeling nervous and apprehensive but once we have met a few times they start to enjoy it. It’s a brave move to come to counselling but for almost everyone, it’s one of the best moves they’ve made.
Please read an interesting article written by Andrew G Marshall about Couples Counselling here.
Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing (more commonly known as EMDR) is a form of psychotherapy developed in the 1980s by American psychologist Francine Shapiro.
During a stroll in the park, Shapiro made a chance observation that certain eye movements appeared to reduce the negative emotion associated with her own traumatic memories. When she experimented, she found that others also exhibited a similar response to eye movements, and so she set about conducting controlled studies before developing a multiphase approach to trauma reduction.
Today, the therapy is used to treat a wide range of psychological difficulties that typically originate in trauma, such as direct or indirect experiences of violence, accidents or natural disaster. EMDR therapy is also used to treat more prolonged, low-grade distress that originates in shock or loss in adult life and/or issues experienced during childhood. The experiences outlined above often lead to a post-traumatic stress disorder diagnosis, for which EMDR has been recommended by the National Institute of Health and Care Excellence (NICE).
Increasingly, EMDR therapy is also being used for the treatment of other issues including:
- performance anxiety
- phobias and fears
- low self-esteem
Reported benefits of EMDR include:
- A reduction in re-experiencing trauma memories.
- Feeling more able to cope with and manage trauma memories without needing to avoid potential triggers.
- Feeling more able to engage in and enjoy pleasurable activities and relationships.
- Reduced feelings of stress, anxiety, irritation and hypervigilance – allowing you to rest well, address pressure and/or conflict and go about your daily business without feeling fearful and prone to panic.
- Reduced feelings of isolation, hopelessness and depression.
- A boost in self-confidence and self-esteem.
When traumatic events occur, the body’s natural cognitive and neurological coping mechanisms can be overwhelmed and subsequently the memory is inadequately processed and stored in an isolated network.
The goal of EMDR therapy is to properly process these traumatic memories, reducing their impact and helping clients to develop coping mechanisms. This is done through an eight-phase approach to address the past, present, and future aspects of a stored memory, requiring clients to recall distressing events while receiving bilateral sensory input, including:
- side to side eye movements
- hand tapping
- auditory tones.
The goal of EMDR is to reduce distress in the shortest period of time using a comprehensive approach with therapeutic protocols and procedures. There are eight phases to EMDR therapy which typically adhere to the following format:
During the initial phase your EMDR therapist will ask you about your history, including what kind of distress you are experiencing, whether or not you are taking any medication and what kind of support you are already receiving. Getting to know you in this way will help your therapist determine whether or not EMDR is the best course of action for you.
Before EMDR treatment begins, your therapist will talk you through the theory, answering any questions you may have. At this point your therapist will spend some time going through relaxation exercises (these may include guided meditations or breathing techniques) to utilise during the treatment and during times of stress outside of your sessions. Therapists refer to this second phase as preparation.
At this point you will be led through phase’s three to six. You will now target specific distressing memories with eye movements or other forms of left-right stimulation such as taps or sounds. To start with you will be asked to select an image to represent the event and then to think about positive and negative thoughts, the amount of distress you feel and where you feel it in your body. Your therapist will then use bilateral eye movements (or taps or sounds) in a series of ‘sets’ lasting around 25 seconds. After each set, you will be asked for feedback on your experience during the preceding set, before starting the eye movements again. Your therapist may also ask you to recall the original memory and ask you how it seems to you now. This will continue until your distress has cleared (or is reduced as much as possible) and you are experiencing more positive thoughts and feelings.
The seventh phase is known as closure and it offers you time to feel calm again using the relaxation exercises you learnt at the beginning of the session. Finally, the eighth phase is called re-evaluation – and this is effectively the first step in your next session. This phase will see you and your therapist working together to consider how you are coping and whether or not you need to address the same memory as last time or if you are able to move on to something different.
EMDR therapy is also used to treat more prolonged, low-grade distress that originates in shock or loss in adult life and/or issues experienced during childhood. The experiences outlined above often lead to a post-traumatic stress disorder diagnosis, for which EMDR has been recommended by the National Institute of Health and Care Excellence (NICE).
Life Coaching is a profession that is profoundly different from consulting, mentoring, advice, therapy, or counselling. The coaching process addresses specific personal projects, business successes, general conditions and transitions in the client’s personal life, relationships or profession by examining what is going on right now, discovering what your obstacles or challenges might be, and choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be.
“What you seek is seeking you.” – Rumi
Life Coaching is a designed alliance between the coach and client where the coaching relationship continually gives all the power back to you, the client. I believe you know the answers to every question or challenge you may have in your life, even if those answers appear to be obscured, concealed or hidden inside.
- The first life coaching session will look to gain an overall perspective of someone’s life, before identifying which area they seek to improve or are currently unhappy with.
- The life coach and client will agree goals that, during sessions, will be broken down into more achievable objectives.
- It is then down to the individual to go away with the techniques they have been taught and work on what has been agreed. It is between sessions that the individual must possess the drive and focus to want to change.
- This will be facilitated by the life coach who, during the sessions, will change how someone looks at both themselves and the rest of the world and in time a more positive thought process will be developed.
- It is the alteration of their thought process combined with the desire to change and challenge themselves that will allow the individual to ultimately achieve their goals.
My skills are about knowing the right questions to ask and having the right tools and techniques to empower you to find those answers within yourself.
You, the client, are the only expert in your entire life who truly knows who you are and what you need. You are the only expert who can recognise what is absolutely best for you. I am simply an expert in the coaching process. As your coach, I can help you discover what your own personal “best” might be.
Every day we make choices to do or not do many things. These choices may range from profound to trivial and each one has an effect that makes our lives more fulfilling or less fulfilling, more balanced or less balanced, that make our process of living more effective or less effective. Life coaching helps you learn how to make choices that create an effective, balanced and fulfilling life.
I’ll help you connect your head and your heart in a way that transforms your passion for your dreams into action for your life.
As a coach, I can help to guide you in one or more of the following areas :
- Confidence, Self-Worth & Self Esteem
- Loving Relationships That Work
- Career Change – Creating Workplaces That Work
- The Mastery of Balance – Juggling a Life
- Self-Care – Getting Your Own Needs Met
- Living Your Purpose
- Hot Buttons – Managing Anger, Upsets, Frustration and Stress
- Managing Grief, Loss, Sadness and Change
So in summary, there are 3 words that I use to describe what coaching can achieve …
Guides – the life coach provides the tools and support for someone to broaden their perspectives and open their mind, enabling them to reach their goal.
Empowerment – the ability for the individual to realise their own self-worth and self-belief that they may have lost sight of and use it to the best of their ability.
Improvement – in recognising an individual can go from where they are, to where they want to be, thus achieving their goals.
In 2013, I completed a Post Graduate Diploma in Supervision, with Inter-Psyche. This was an insightful and excellent year long course, which I can highly recommend if you are interested in becoming a Supervisor. My reason for choosing this CPD, was that over the previous years, I had experienced a very ‘mixed bag’ of supervision during my placement and early career. Where often I felt out of my depth and not adequately supported. I felt passionately that what I wanted for myself – and what I hoped I could give to others – would be an ethical, theory based but supportive and educative form of Supervision (for anyone from a new trainee, up to the most senior practitioner) – fulfilling all that I felt had been lacking in my past supervision experience.
I believe now more than ever that good, effective and supportive supervision is essential if you wish to work as a Counsellor or Psychotherapist in our very often challenging and tough world. I see supervision as a structured working relationship, where the goal is to work together in a collegiate way, so as to ensure and develop the efficacy and trust of the counsellor/client relationship.
What the Clinical Supervisor expects from the Supervisee:
• Commitment to regular sessions as per the BACP guidelines
• To hold timely sessions, that the supervisee will phone/email to cancel or if arriving late
• Accountability to each other for maintaining session confidentiality
• Supervisee to maintain own supervisory documentation (Suggested BACP format -www.bacpregister.org.uk/Supervision/CPD)
• For the supervisee to be willing to accept feedback on performance and recommendations
• Feedback to supervisor where necessary – for example, tried, tested and outcomes
What the Supervisee expects from their Supervisor:
• To be challenged and supported within my clinical practice
• I fully adhere to and follow the BACP’s guidelines on Supervision and Ethical Framework
• Help with career development and continued learning
• Needs to be action-based to be effective
The models of Supervision I work with:
I tend to use two main formats of supervision depending on the Supervisee. These are:
- Bond and Holland – 1998
“Clinical supervision is regular, protected time out to reflect on practice, in which the supervisee can develop high-quality practice through the means of focused support and development.”
This type of supervision differs from more managerial types of supervision, in that the process is supervisee-led and more supportive in nature.
- Brigid Proctor’s – 1986
The Functions of Clinical Supervision – Brigid Proctor’s – Interactive Model of Clinical Supervision.
Formative (Learning) – clinical supervision concerned with developing the skills, abilities and understandings of the supervisee/practitioner through reflective practice.
Restorative (Support) – clinical supervision concerned with how the supervisee/practitioner responds emotionally to the stresses of working in a caring environment.
Normative (Accountability) – clinical supervision concerned with maintaining and ensuring the effectiveness of the supervisee.
The clinical supervision I offer:
- One to One Supervision
I offer one to one supervision where we will meet every month for 1.5 hours – Fee £50
Meeting fortnightly for 1 hour – Fee £35.00
- Group Supervision for those looking to apply for accreditation in the next 12/18 months.
This is a special group of no more than 4 people. It is geared to the needs of those Counsellors that are working towards, or are looking to apply for their BACP accreditation in the next year – 18 months. We look at the work that you are currently doing and review it from the accreditation framework and how that might apply.
Group therapy is a form of Psychotherapy. It involves at least one therapist working with a group of several people at the same time.
We run a small regular Group of 6/7 people at any one time. It is a closed group, which means that people can only join the group every quarter. The group meets once a week in the evening for up to two hours. People that attend the group tend to come and stay for a minimum of 4-6 months.
The group meets in a room where the chairs are arranged in a large circle so that each member can see every other person in the group. The sessions begin with any new member introducing themselves and sharing why they are in group therapy. The other existing Members then share their experiences and progress since the last meeting.
The way I tend to run my Group sessions are generally dependent on the agreed goals of the group, which we review every quarter. I tend to encourage a more free-form style of dialogue, where each member participates as he or she sees fit.
The main advantages include:
- Group therapy allows people to receive the support and encouragement of the other members of the group. People participating in the group can see that others are going through the same thing, which can help them feel less alone.
- Group members can serve as role models to other members of the group. By observing someone successfully coping with a problem, other members of the group can see that there is hope for recovery. As each person progresses they can, in turn, serve as a role model and support figure for others. This can help foster feelings of success and accomplishment.
- Group therapy is often very affordable. Instead of focusing on just one client at a time, the therapist can devote his or her time to a much larger group of people.
- Group therapy offers a safe haven. The setting allows people to practice behaviours and actions within the safety and security of the group.
- By working in a group, the therapist can see first-hand how each person responds to other people and behaves in social situations. Using this information, the therapist can provide valuable feedback to each client.
Feel Well Live Well Therapy has put together a Psycho-educational programme that will help you take stock and re-evaluate where you are in life, and how to make some simple changes that will enhance your life and your wellbeing and give you new direction and motivation.
It is a programme that is run in small groups of no more than 10 people over 6 weeks:
- Mental Health and Wellbeing – how is yours doing?
- Communication – what’s your style?
- Relationships – how to get the best out of them…
- Emotional Literacy – Do you know which primary emotions you use most?
- Negative Thinking – Glass half full or empty…
- Boundaries – do you know how to say no?
- How to set Goals, write a bucket list and achieve them!
- Chillax – how to master Relaxation and Mindfulness
- The programme is for both men and women, young and old alike!
- You may be struggling with life generally, or have some mild anxiety or depression, or just have lost your MOJO – then this programme is for you.
- It is an interactive thought-provoking and hopefully inspiring programme that will help you to identify what is important in your life.
- You will leave the programme with a ‘toolkit’ of helpful notes and strategies. The aim of these, are to help you better navigate through life in the future. In addition you’ll have a new network of supportive friends and a renewed sense of direction.
- Has been working as a Psycho-Therapist for over eight years.
- Working for HM Prison Service, Probation Service, NHS (Primary Care) and Kent Police.
- Prior to being a Therapist, had a successful career in Corporate Marketing.
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Should you have any questions, or wish to discuss the programme please call me on – 077 6017 1127 or email me – thanks.
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(coffee 7pm) Start 7:30 – 9:00pm
£150 per person for the 6 week programme
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New for this year…
FWLWT is delighted to be able to offer a collection of workshops covering a number of topics from ‘Work/Life balance – have you got it?’ to ‘Mastering the Power of Positive Thinking’… so if you are thinking that 2017 is your year of Personal Development – you have come to the right place!
Most workshops usually last 2 hours and are a mixture of tutor presentations, student worksheets, exercises and general discussion.
Attendees are encouraged to participate and draw upon their own life skills and experiences. With small groups, (usually no more than 8-10), the workshop allows you the time to learn from others, work out what is holding you back and to understand what you really want from life.
All workshops are £25 per person and to be paid for in full in advance of the workshops.
The events are usually held (unless otherwise stated) at Restoring Health, Lily Pie café, Chart Sutton.
Time: 6:30pm for Coffee, Start 7:00pm – 9:00pm
To book your place, please either call 07760/171127 or complete the booking form on the website and forward to firstname.lastname@example.org
How to Master the art of Chillaxing…
Do you find yourself stressed and unable to relax or wind-down on holiday? Or is chilling in front of the Television or reading a book impossible to do? If so, this might be the course for you – come and learn some simple wind-down strategies to help you ‘chillax’ and feel more content with your down time.
Making sense of Emotional Eating
Have you ever heard yourself say, ‘I ate that but I didn’t enjoy it’, or ‘I don’t know why I ate that, I didn’t need it?’ If so it may be that you are an Emotional Eater… Maybe it’s time for you to make the connection between food and your mood. During this workshop – we’ll have a look at how your history may have a part to play and what you can do to change it.
How to achieve Wellbeing in the 21st Century
Didn’t the advent of automatic washing machines, email and mobile phones promise us more time for ourselves? Why then has research proven that we are more stressed than ever before with these time saving gadgets? Come and see how you can find that peace that you are looking for.
How to keep Anxiety at bay – (women only workshop)
This is a workshop for women who find that everyday life brings anxiety every day!
Ask yourself – are juggling too many balls at the moment, or do the plates look like they are going to stop spinning? If these statements ring true why not come along and learn some new coping mechanism that will help you take the control back and quiet the fear of the future.
Happiness and Emotional Resilience – where do we find it?
Is it like searching for the Holy Grail? We do all the things that we are told today by modern media and the press, and still we can’t find happiness and emotional strength. We seem to get defeated so easily. How do we build on our firm foundations to help us weather the storm? Come and find out.
Mastering the Power of Positive Thinking
Tell me – is your glass half empty or half full? Success and happiness are founded on our attitudes that we develop from when we are very young. It influences the choices we make in certain situations and the people we choose in our lives. Sometimes if we change our perceptions our attitudes automatically change – let’s have a look and see how yours is doing.
Heart and Soul – how to find lasting relationships and good love
Are you single again and wondering why? Or has your relationship reached the end of the road? Do you find you always pick a user, loser or abuser? If you answered yes to any of these – come and join us and find how to make relationships last and what your history might have to do with this.
Work/Life Balance – have you got it?
On this workshop we will explore the 5 key aspects to achieving a fulfilled and well-balanced life. We’ll look at where you may be out of balance, or perhaps overly focused on one area of life and often at the expense of another. We will work on readdressing the balance and setting realistic goals to get you back in the driver’s seat of your life.
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My aim is to bring meaningful and lasting relief from psychological suffering by providing a kind environment in which to explore and nurture positive changes to the way we think, feel and act in our everyday lives.
I am able to provide a range of support for:
- Anger Management
- Depression and burnout
- Emotional and Physical abuse
- Generalised Anxiety Disorder and Excessive Worry
- Interpersonal and relationship difficulties
- LGBTQ – Transgender/Transitioning
- Marriage breakdown/mediation whilst separating
- Panic Disorders
- Self confidence/Self Esteem
- Sleep problems
- Traumatic incidents/PTSD
Many of the above conditions have been subject to extensive research including the providers of national guidance NICE (national Institute for Health and Care Excellence) I always adhere and follow NICE protocols.